Maligning the Innocence

It is said that every soul enters this world pure. Only the acts define whether it remains pure. What I understand by pure is that we can retain the level of innocence that a new born would have. A child accepts all and everything; good or bad. It is the environment, people or teachings which help define whether the innocence will be maintained.

Some days back I was watching a Hindi (National language) movie on television. The father has come to live with his son. In India the concept of nucleus family is taking hold yet it is considered that it is perfectly fine for the parents to live with their children in their old age. However, it was shown that the son and the daughter-in-law do not particularly welcome his presence and consider him to be a financial burden. This is made known to the father through their behavior. The father is sad with such behavior and decides to leave. Here there is a greater chance that the grand-child will treat his parents the same cause he has seen them do so with his grand-father. This is a definitive contamination of the child’s beliefs. He will perceive that the parents are not a burden not a responsibility of the children in their old age.

Coincidently another incident that took place when I was at Crosswords (I often visit this shop) the following day. A small child in an attempt to pull out a book displaced the other books on the shelf. Ashamed that his action will cause inconvenience to others collected the books. However, could not comfortably reach the shelf to put them back. He asked his mother for help who was back from her shopping spree. She retorted that the store personnel are paid to clean up the mess we create so it is not required. With all due respect the store personnel are paid to take care of the customers and for orderly functioning. However, we as customers are not intended to create a mess for them to clean up.

These were two separate incidences with different children. But the child goes through many such different or repetitive incidences in his life which help him form his perspective of what is right and wrong. There is a greater possibility that the child will mold his behavior similar to his parents thinking that elders are best guide.

There is a child in every one of us. That is any person starting a new phase in life is a child. So on a broader perspective we as elders or experienced mature individuals unknowingly or knowingly malign the innocence of ‘Children’ around us. Taking an instance of the corporate world, a new team member who works hard is repeatedly made to fill in for someone who tries to avoid work will feel used. The new team member will feel to avoid being used, it’s best to be in other persons shoes.

It becomes essential to identify the child and its level of innocence within us before trying to restoring it to original level of purity.

Do you know your dream???

The other day my friend mentioned that one of his friends has set up a blog wherein the blogger has requested inputs about one’s dreams. Surprisingly there are only 11 entries; my friend said that he too has not listed his, the reason being that he cannot figure out what his dream is. Thinking on this point I too could not pinpoint one such dream which is closest to my heart. What do I really want to achieve or do in life?

Because of our busy schedules we may not take the time to understand what our dreams are. In the bargain we can tend to lead a life devoid of any objective which could give us a sense of achievement.

The question to myself was, "How many times have I waited to think about my dreams and have I done anything to realize them?"
Some weeks back while I was shopping at Crossword (popular book store in India), I stumbled across a charcoal pencils pack and I said to myself I wish I could sketch a portrait or draw a good picture. As a child I used to do fairly well on this but did not pursue the same for long. After giving a moment’s thought I passed off the idea of buying those pencils considering that I may not have the time to sketch or draw.

That day I passed off a dream, which could have given me a sense of achievement and happiness.

Being able to sketch or draw well may be just one of the various dreams. Life is very short but I made a promise to myself that I will live and take action on the various small dreams. And this is MY DREAM.

That conversation gave me the inspiration to take the time to understand and decide my dreams.

Camaraderie

Today’s generation focuses much on achieving goals, performance, growth, etc. Ensuring individual performance has become very critical to ensure sustaining in the corporate world.

Another prevalent ideology is a person effective in individual capacity can effectively contribute to a group also. However, while working as a part of a group there would be times where one has to sacrifice personal interests to achieve group’s goals.

Some years back our department was small yet we were servicing many clients. Our group of five close knit colleagues worked together to execute projects seamlessly. This was possible because we could understand each other’s requirements and would prioritize to ensure the best results.

There was times when we have sacrificed personal interests as well as compromised professional goals to ensure that the greater goal is achieved i.e. delivering quality work on time every time.

When I analyze the reason for our success I attribute it all to a bond – bond of friendship – the camaraderie we shared.

Soon department grew business grew. New people were added new groups created. I noticed that the bonds of friendship remained intact amongst us but were absent in the newer groups created. Every new individual was working towards achieving individual success. But many a times group interests were compromised. Thus started the conflict of interests i.e. group against individual. Resultant there is suspicion lost motivation lower productivity and ultimately a dissatisfied client.

All relationships personal or professional are based on rapport we build the camaraderie we share. This only can build a successful relationship. Seek friends instead of just colleagues Life would be a better place to work and live in.

I have been fortunate to experience high standards of camaraderie.